Happy birthday to my sister! She is in Shanghai meeting her son there, the best birthday gift for her.
This came yesterday from an old friend of mine, “看张洁毕淑敏的书，她们都是过了六十开始做减法。房子卖了，书送人，减少一切不必要的关系，活动。…赤条条来去无牵挂。挺好。"
Here's my rough translation. "I read the books by Zhang Jie and Bi Shumin. Both started downsizing after turning 60, selling their houses, giving away books, reducing unnecessary relationships and activities... We come to this world with nothing, so be it when we leave."
Honestly, I felt depressed upon first reading. On the one hand, downsizing represents minimalism and decluttering, which is a good lifestyle. Secondly, recommended is letting go too much material possessions. Thirdly, I'm okay with detachment from bad relationships. Fourthly, it might sound a great way of living for some people though.
On the other hand, perhaps it’s just me, the whole thing sounds depressing and pessimistic, like saying, hey guys, after turning 60, don't do much, just get ready for your end.
It is true that we are limited in terms of our energy and time as we age, this does not mean we can't continue engaging actively in life, generating values, adding meanings and serving in whatever way we can.
We represent two attitudes: one sees aging as a preparation for the end, the other as a time of continued growth, learning, and contribution. There are still opportunities for sharing our wisdom, giving mentorship, and enjoying new experiences.
By the way, Zhang Jie and Bi Shumin are famous people in China. While quotes from famous ones can sometimes add credibility to our words, still I think we should critically evaluate their words. What is good for them might not be so for others.
Finally, keep in mind that, regardless of what others say, it is crucial for our own mental and psychological health to acknowledge and celebrate our own value and potential in society and continue contributing in our own way, rather than focusing on preparing for the end.