We took a long walk on Sunday morning before the heat became intense. During our walk, my daughter and I discussed the challenges we are currently facing.
I told her that I came to the United States when I was her age, starting from scratch. If I hadn't come, I would have a very different life, perhaps an easier one without the challenge of facing a new culture and language. As your brother said to you, "If Mom and Dad didn't come to the U.S., you wouldn't be here at all." They know all about China's one-child policy before 2015.
As the second generation of immigrants, she faces different challenges, but they are much easier than what we faced before. I recited this phrase for her again: 雄关漫道真如铁，而今迈步从头越, the long and arduous road ahead is indeed like iron obstacles, but now we take our first steps to start anew.
This phrase acknowledges that the obstacles ahead are hard as iron, but it also highlights that our determination is stronger. It expresses a resolve to start anew and overcome these obstacles.
My daughter quit her job in 2021 and was courageous enough to follow a path more risky and less taken. I told her to remember these words. In a broader sense, this phrase means that although the path forward may be tough, with steadfastness and a fresh beginning, she can overcome any obstacle, stronger than iron.
A young couple we know are nearing the age commonly considered “over the hill.” They are the first generation of immigrants here, with two small children. They now face enormous tasks settling here compared to the second-generation ABCs (American-Born Chinese).
For my daughter and my young friends, I'd like to remind them to keep up the youthful spirit and aspirations they were so full of when they were fresh out of college. This spirit is super valuable as it keeps us curious and open-minded, steadfast in moving forward. Don’t let go of this youthful spirit and become jaded and lose steam over time.
As we finished our walk, we felt a renewed sense of hope for the future. Despite the challenges that lie ahead, I am confident that she and my young friends will follow their new path with renewed confidence and determination. Just as I once embarked on my journey with resolve, they too will forge their own way, embracing each step with renewed courage and strength.