On 4/2, I went to a high school reunion, 8 of us retirees, full of noise and unconstrained laughter. This is another April Fools' Day.
Back to each dwelling and when the laughter subsides, I feel a tint of regret when a moment of reflection sets in.
Most of them spent their career life as diplomats outside China, with whom I have not been in touch since 1974. I imagine they must have a rich, colorful, exciting and diverse experience in these years.
What are their life journeys, what are their perspectives on work, current affairs, what are the most challenging tasks in their careers, what are their proudest moments, would they do things differently if they were to start all over again, and their retirement plan, etc. I'm deeply intrigued by these questions, yet none of them were brought to the table. Also I think I miss an opportunity for learning and growth.
While it's natural for such regret to surface in hindsight in moments of solitude, especially when considering the depth and complexity of their life experiences, it is important to keep in mind that large gatherings are not fit for any meaningful in-depth conversations.
Reunions are for fun and reconnection, rather than dwelling on reflections and introspections. Enjoy what the occasion has to offer. No more no less.
想当年，金戈铁马，气吞万里如虎 (xiǎng dāng nián , jīn gē tiě mǎ, qì tūn wànlǐ rúhǔ), looking back, with gold armor and iron horse, they galloped 10 thousand miles like fearless tigers. That’s how exciting their lives looked like back then.